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"I feel free, healthy, HOT, and very alive today.  I have everything to bring to the table and nothing to lose"

If you feel like I do then why would you give yourself away to someone who "can't afford you"? If you don't feel like I do, you can change that in one month of applying yourself. Be selfish enough to only be the best, befriend the best, and available to the best.  

Every relationship is like a business transaction. Albeit, I don't mean to suck the romance or seduction out of the process but I want you to start thinking this way in a utilitarian sense. 

I've dated as much, if not more, than most people I know and, therefore, I believe I have a fairly accurate picture of what is available and who stands out in the crowd.  Women I date, normally, fall into two simple categories: the givers and the takers. Note: You would love to be a fly on the wall on one of my dates. I actually don't date as it's most commonly understood, I meet with you and if we like each other it turns into a date...but that's a future blog.

The Givers [ the minority ] :

These are the women who actually have something to bring to the table; they're sexy, interesting, can cook, have experienced a bit of life, and know how to treat a man.  They don't tell me how they love the outdoors and complain at the first drop of rain, they're not lazy and unmotivated, and they are happily independent but HAPPIER with me by their side.

The Takers [ paper tigers] :

These are the women and men who enter the relationship thinking, what can you do for me.  They are the unappreciative, unrealistic, and are unable to see the huge clock ticking above their heads.  They are the women who have spent little or no time on perfecting anything more than putting together a cheesy outfit or the perfect hair cut.  These are the women who think they're "doing me a favor" by having sex. Note: if anyone is doing a favor it's me LOL LOL . You'll just have to trust me on that one. 

We all know who the takers are, they're the club girls, the girls with no style, and the women who have settled for personal mediocrity. Oddly, these same women think they deserve a great guy.  They don't and they wouldn't be able to keep one around if they stumbled upon him anyway.

The Deal:

Falling in love is easy, as I've said many times, it happens to you, not you to it.  It doesn't require effort or much attention, it's blissful.  As the butterflies fade, they always will, that's part of brain chemistry, we find out who understands what it means to have a trusting loving partner and those who don't get it.  

If you find someone you love or even like a lot. It's your job to soul search and ask yourself what you have to balance the deal, what is he made of and what do you have to offer him.  It's your burden, as well as his, to keep stretching beyond who you are to reach for higher heights and personal growth.  You CAN become more interesting and more of a "catch" while you're with your new found love but it takes effort.  You can't be lazy in a relationship and not do your share. I've dated girls like this and once it's over [ I get bored, they "bottom out", or they don't heed my warning shots, or, even funnier, they leave me] they go back out into the nether of the dating world only to return to me once they've seen that I was the "best car on the lot."  I'm sure this has happened to some of you. It may take a month, a year, or more but if you're a catch, they'll be back.  

I know who I am and what I have to bring to the table. I can say with all confidence, not arrogance, I'm a catch.  From the bedroom to the kitchen, from best friend to protector, and from intelligent to silly, I've worked hard to cover my bases.  Have you?

Deal Breaker:

Don't go into deals with someone who aren't worth the cost or can't afford to "drive you".  This should be apparent in the first month of dating.  Cut your losses if they still need a bit more time in the oven to bake into someone worth eating...so to speak...lol...let them go.  If they're ripe, pluck them and makes something wonderful.

Ultimately we're all human beings and will know when someone unselfishly loves and accepts us. No matter how shallow we are, everyone can, in time, feel real love when it shows up at their door.  It's what makes us human. I've been with shallow girls whom I showed love and they came around, it's always amazing to watch them grow. 

Note: You'll shop until you drop for shoes, panties, and jeans so why not prepare yourself for the guy who is looking for just the right fit too.

DON'T FORGET TO SHOP BAD BOYS FINISH FIRST .COM AND BAD GIRLS FINISH FIRST . NET.

Comments

[Leen]

One of my favorite blogs
you made me think of each sentence and re re assess who I am and what do I deserve !

I may not be sure how good I am in some parts and I don't know how to evaluate !

but you made me think of it and most important ... never accept to go below the base line

Thanks

[Kathy]

Lol! Not that what you said was funny but how you phrased some of the stuff is funny. Reminds me of a saying I used to hear as a kid. " I'm conceited I'm convinced!" Anyhow still reading blogs.... Enjoying the different aspects of your writing. ;)

[Kathy]

Oops that was " I'm not conceited I'm convinced!" Darn human making mistakes. Shrug.