Come to find out that the secret to success [in relationships ] is no secret at all. It's common sense but sadly something many people lack. Albeit, it's not to late to be enlightened.
Moreover, when someone shares something profound or clarifying with me, I feel an obligation to pass it on to you!
I was recently contacted by an acquaintance from many years ago via, you guessed it, Face Book.
I never claim to have all the answers so I asked her, "what is the secret to a long loving relationship?" and this is what she said:
"Having kids makes me hope that Bad Boys Do NOT finish first. :) It's true that the girls do like the bad boys though, that has never changed through time. Having kids changes your life completely, the focus switches off of you and on to them. It's actually pretty centering! Can't even imagine life without my kids and husband. The partying life was never my thing and it got old really fast. The secret to staying married for 22 years really isn't a secret at all, its about falling in love with someone and having that person feel the same way about you, regardless of all the things that get in the way. You won't feel "in love" everyday, that fades, "in love" is just a feeling but when you love them and value what they bring to your life you make a CHOICE to work on it and keep the love alive. I have never been a quitter and neither is my husband. Today, unfortunately if something gets tough people just quit, it's easier that way. I'm sure I am no picnic to live with.. really? I know, I can be difficult, opinionated, stubborn, whatever other adjective you throw in there! But at the end of the day, to maintain a good relationship you have to be willing to roll with the changes, people change and you just have to figure out what it takes to still fit together and keep each other happy. Here's another piece of advice, stay away from superficial people. Society is overflowing with self-indulgent, narcissist beautiful people with hollow personalities and insincere intentions. There are people that are beautiful from the inside out, I found someone like that, a genuine, sincere person with morals and a sense of what is right and wrong (who also happens to be good looking). I'm trying to raise 3 kids with the same morals and ethics that we have, not an easy thing to do in this generation! WOW that sounded extremely preachy! I feel like I should be standing at the pulpit with that speech... anyway, you asked me to be specific... how was that? It's actually everything you have always heard, nothing new. There is a certain amount of luck involved. There are a lot of people on the planet... finding the right one is not as easy as I made it sound - in that respect I got lucky. Keeping it exciting and having it still be great after 23 years of marriage (+6 years of dating) is the real feat! Somehow I think your reputation (Bad Boys Finish First) may precede you when you meet a girl and expectations are set! :) Some people are also happier being single, maybe you're one of those people... I'll shut up now..."
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Posted by: LENA | October 08, 2010 at 02:49 PM
I don't know your friend but I like her! Thanks for sharing!!!
Posted by: Katie | October 11, 2010 at 04:27 PM